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The phrase for the week is "Loving Yourself.” The most important relationship you will ever have is the relationship you have with yourself.   Loving yourself allows you to love others and be loving to them.   If I were to observe you for one week, what will I see, what will I hear, how will I feel?   What story will I tell about YOUR: ·          Worth ·          Values ·          Passions ·          Vulnerability ·          Spirit ·          Patience with yourself ·          Self-Respect ·          Gifts ·          Humor ·          Intuitive Side ·          Compassion I love myself with all my heart. #loveyourself #iloveme #loving

The word for the week is "Fixer.” If you ever feel the compulsion to “fix” someone, consider the consequence of failure for you and that someone. Fixers have this innate desire to rescue or help another person.   The problem is, the help comes in the form of “this is what you should be doing.”   They are self-righteous and have an obsessive need to correct or make the person perfect. Once the fixer has taken on the assignment (self-selected), an emotional attachment is created and the behavior can become oppressive, impeding the person’s growth. If you are a fixer, you know that the more you practice this behavior, the better you get at it.   Sometimes, the dependence created can wear thin for you over time.   But you soldier on, finding the next poor soul to fix.   You become vested in the outcome you envision and if things get worse, you get worse.   You rationalize that you’re doing good when in fact, the outcome isn’t about the other person, but about y

The word for the week is "Read” Reading something interesting each week for at least 15 minutes keeps you curious, which fuels innovation and creativity.   The health benefits are huge.   Studies have shown that staying mentally stimulated can slow the progress or possibly even prevent Alzheimer’s and Dementia, since keeping your brain active and engaged prevents it from losing power.   We often overlook the advantages of exercising our brain to keep it functioning at a high level.   It’s important to keep it strong and healthy.   As we get older, we watch a great deal more television.   And with our DVR’s, On Demand, Netflix and other services, we can binge watch for hours.   In addition to leading to more aggressive behavior, watching too much can reduce your level of intelligence, and make it difficult to concentrate.   In a recent study, it was found that if adults watched less than 2 hours a day and sat less than 3 hours a day, life expectancy in the US woul

The word for the week is "Interruptions.” Everything takes longer than expected and it’s usually because of unplanned interruptions.   It’s a fact that refocusing after an interruption takes valuable time and is unproductive. About twenty years ago, I began planning for interruptions.   Boy did it make my life easier.   I was less frustrated and overwhelmed because I added in time for interruptions on my things to-do list.   If I knew something would take me an hour to complete, I planned for two.   If by some miracle I wasn’t interrupted, I could move to the next item on the list. I also learned to handle interruptions without being too rude.   The t elephone is a great tool if used effectively.   Learn to interrupt politely—“how can I help you today?”   I’m so sorry, but I must get back to this project, can we schedule a time to talk later? Turn off the sound on your email account.   When focused on a task, I turn off the email until I’m done.   When the bore

The phrase for the week is "Stop, Prioritize, Act.” When clients or friends share they are feeling overwhelmed, I understand that it could stem from exhaustion, anxiety, worry or a feeling of helplessness. In my line of work as a consultant and executive coach, it is usually a 'things to-do list' that has gotten totally out of control.   There are countless reasons for a person to feel overwhelmed. One solution is to reframe what we tell ourselves.   Instead of saying, “I’ll never get all this done in time,” reframe the story to list all the things you know will get done.   Negative thoughts are just not helpful in this situation. Now is a good time to press the pause button and set two or three priorities for today, three for tomorrow and so on.   Taking deep breaths really help.   If you can’t jump into a yoga class, take a quick walk around the block, put on some relaxation music or just move to another location with something fun to read for 15 minutes.