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  The phrase for the week is "Contingency Planning” When I was growing up in Chicago, I loved to play chess.    What I loved most about the game was trying to predict what moves my opponent might make and what I would do in response.    I’m too impatient for chess now, but I have used those skills throughout my career and am confident it has been the foundation for much of my planning success stories.    I call it contingency planning but the formal term is scenario planning. It is so much a part of how I approach my personal and professional life, I rarely realize I’ve engaged this tool.    In order for this level of planning to work, you must be committed to the amount of time it takes to sift through all the possible outcomes or scenarios.    Often, a person will only plan for the outcome they want and when things go awry, they are back to square one--researching, planning, etc.    Often there is a mourning period before they are able to regroup to begin again.    Meanwhile, I
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Check Yourself, Check Your Values!

The word for the week is "Values” We all strive to work in today’s dynamic times without compromising our values.   When the way we want to live your lives is aligned with our actions, we are happy.   When they are in conflict, unhappiness sets in and conflict ensues. This conflict destroys your ability to be creative, to innovate and grow personally and professionally. This week complete this awareness exercise to discover the behaviors that tell the world what you feel is important, what guides your life, your values. List your top five values. Next to each value, state your behaviors that are evidence to you and the world that these are your values.   For example:   My number one value is family.   Everyone will know this because I rarely work evenings and weekends so I can spend time with my family.   When you have completed the five values and evidence, put this in a safe place. Next, identify five people to help you with this awareness exercise--a spouse, c
The word for the week is "Gratitude.” I agree with William Arthur Ward, “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.”   It can certainly begin with a list, but the end result is action. During this season of Thanksgiving, compile a list of those in your life you will show gratitude over the next couple of weeks.   It can be people you love, colleagues, those who service you and don’t forget you! I express gratitude with action. #gratitude journal #grateful #thanksgiving

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Have You Hugged You Today?

The phrase for the week is "Loving Yourself.” The most important relationship you will ever have is the relationship you have with yourself.   Loving yourself allows you to love others and be loving to them.   If I were to observe you for one week, what will I see, what will I hear, how will I feel?   What story will I tell about YOUR: ·          Worth ·          Values ·          Passions ·          Vulnerability ·          Spirit ·          Patience with yourself ·          Self-Respect ·          Gifts ·          Humor ·          Intuitive Side ·          Compassion I love myself with all my heart. #loveyourself #iloveme #loving

Are You a Fixer?

The word for the week is "Fixer.” If you ever feel the compulsion to “fix” someone, consider the consequence of failure for you and that someone. Fixers have this innate desire to rescue or help another person.   The problem is, the help comes in the form of “this is what you should be doing.”   They are self-righteous and have an obsessive need to correct or make the person perfect. Once the fixer has taken on the assignment (self-selected), an emotional attachment is created and the behavior can become oppressive, impeding the person’s growth. If you are a fixer, you know that the more you practice this behavior, the better you get at it.   Sometimes, the dependence created can wear thin for you over time.   But you soldier on, finding the next poor soul to fix.   You become vested in the outcome you envision and if things get worse, you get worse.   You rationalize that you’re doing good when in fact, the outcome isn’t about the other person, but about y

What Are You Reading?

The word for the week is "Read” Reading something interesting each week for at least 15 minutes keeps you curious, which fuels innovation and creativity.   The health benefits are huge.   Studies have shown that staying mentally stimulated can slow the progress or possibly even prevent Alzheimer’s and Dementia, since keeping your brain active and engaged prevents it from losing power.   We often overlook the advantages of exercising our brain to keep it functioning at a high level.   It’s important to keep it strong and healthy.   As we get older, we watch a great deal more television.   And with our DVR’s, On Demand, Netflix and other services, we can binge watch for hours.   In addition to leading to more aggressive behavior, watching too much can reduce your level of intelligence, and make it difficult to concentrate.   In a recent study, it was found that if adults watched less than 2 hours a day and sat less than 3 hours a day, life expectancy in the US woul